And then the phone calls to the wife started.
Ouch.
And what did he end up losing - possibly his multi-million dollar house, half of his wealth, and of course, his marriage.
Read the story on ESPN.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Three Times in Bed And He Lost Everything
Women Too Have Sex!
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By Deborah Kotz
Why do women have sex? It's an intriguing question once you get beyond the obvious reasons: to perpetuate the species and because it feels good. Two University of Texas researchers wanted to dig deeper to find out what specifically drives women to go to bed with their partners. They conducted an online survey of more than 1,000 women ages 18 to 87 and found, to their surprise, that women aren't all that different from men. The survey asked women if they have ever had sex for one of the 237 reasons identified by the researchers in a previous study. If their response was yes, they would then be prompted to describe a specific sexual experience. The researchers Cindy Meston and David Buss incorporated the findings into a new book, Why Women Have Sex. Here are excerpts from my interview with Meston.
What are the biggest reasons women have sex?
The No. 1 reason is because they're attracted to their partner, followed by their seeking of physical gratification. Lower down on the list, the reasons were connected to love or emotional bonding. This sort of knocks down the stereotype that men have sex for pleasure while women have sex for love. Personally, for me--in my 17 years treating women who have sexual problems--it's reassuring to see that most of the women who participated in our survey are having sex for the pure physical pleasure of it.
Who are the women who participated in your survey? Is it possible those who take the time to fill out an online survey are more likely to seek out sex?
You bring up a good point. There's a natural selection bias in any sex research in that those who are more sexually liberal are more likely to take part in a study. We hope we eliminated that by keeping the answers confidential so people would be as honest as possible, but it's still hard to know if this is a representative sample. We did get a wide range of ages of women responding and had respondents from several other countries besides the U.S.
Did any of the motivations for sex surprise you?
While we expected a wide range of reasons, some specific stories really did surprise me. Many women said they had sex to bring them closer to God. And revenge sex was a big theme--getting back at partners who weren't faithful by having sex with someone else. Competition sex was also surprising: A bunch of friends go to a bar and see who can get the guy to have sex with them. Many young women wrote about having sex simply to get another notch on their belt, which we typically think of as something men do. Some women simply wanted to get rid of their virginity. Still other women engaged in "sympathy sex" because they felt sorry for their mate for any number of reasons, like he was too unattractive to get any dates. Women also admitted to having sex as an economic exchange to land a job or promotion or to get money or drugs. Some of the reasons made me laugh, and others were very sad.
Did women ever express regrets for acting on their impulses, like having a one-night stand?
Some did, while others didn't. For instance, one woman who had sex out of loneliness said a one-night stand helped her feel better and more connected afterward. Another woman, though, said it made her feel even lonelier. It's hard to say what drives this remorse; it's probably a complex mix of religious attitudes and values and what a woman deems to be appropriate behavior. Self-esteem also plays a role in the choices she makes and how she feels afterward.
Did you see any differences between men and women?
Yes. Based on our previous research and this new study, we see that men are still more likely to engage in uncommitted sex, like one-night stands, but that this gender gap has narrowed dramatically since the 1950s, when these [kind of] surveys were first conducted by [Alfred] Kinsey. More women still make the connection between love and sex. And overall, men are definitely more willing to have sex because of physical attraction, while women place less emphasis on physical attraction and more on a man's scent, personality, and breadwinning abilities.
Were there reasons women said they didn't have sex?
We didn't really explore that; it's really a separate study. The number of reasons is so vast, from not having a willing partner to having psychological or medical problems.
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Oil Drilling in the Ice Caps?
Greenland is the latest outpost of the world under siege from the oil giants.
Drilling for oil involves a lot of crude technology. A lot of precious environment stands to be destroyed when these oil companies lay their pipelines on the seabed. If the seabed doesn't conform to their needs, they modify it, either by throwing large rocks onto the seabed to make a path for their pipeline, or, at times, blast a sand dune to make way for their pipelines. All these have repercussions to the natural environment. You lose the wild life, wild sauna, corals and much more.
Save our polar ice caps.
Say NO to OIL DRILLING IN THE POLAR ICE CAPS!
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Microsoft - The Founders
Next year, Microsoft will be 35 years old. It grew from a handful of smart people to a 90,000 smart people company today, with offices in 134 countries. Do you know who the founding people were?
Back row from left to right:
Steve Wood
Steve Wood, 53, one of the first of the early employees to leave in 1980 after his wife Marla filed a sex discrimination lawsuit. Wood held a string of jobs before founding mobile messaging group Wireless Services Corporation in 1996. They live in Washington State, estimated to be worth $15m.
Bob Wallace
Bob Wallace joined as a production manager and software designer in 1978. Quit in 1983 to start software company QuickSoft, which he later sold. Devoted much of his time and money to research in psychedelic drugs, partly through the Promind Foundation, which he founded in 1998. Died of pneumonia in 2002 age 53.
Jim Lane
Project manager, he worked on software for Intel's microprocessors and developed the relationship between the two companies. Left in 1985 and was reported to say that Microsoft had "beat the enthusiasm out of me". He runs his own software company. Reported to be worth $20m.
Middle row from left to right:
Bob O'Rear
One of the most experienced of the early employees, he had advanced degrees in mathematics and astrophysics and had been in the control room at NASA during the first Moon landing. He joined as chief mathematician in 1977. He left in 1993 and now runs a cattle ranch in Texas. Said to be worth around $100m.
Bob Greenberg
He worked at Microsoft between 1977 and 1981, developing the BASIC programming language. Left to launch the Cabbage Patch Dolls, a huge craze in the 1980s. Today, he develops software for golf courses. Reported to be worth $20m. He was also responsible for organising the photo session.
Marc McDonald
The first employee hired in 1977 to work on BASIC, he left in 1984, expressing his frustration that the company had grown "too big". Rejoined in the late 1990s when Microsoft took over the company he was working for.
Gordon Letwin
He stayed for longer than any of the original 11, apart from Gates. He left in 1993 to "kick back" with his wife. A software developer, he was chief architect of the OS/2 operating system. Said to be worth around $20m.
Front row from left to right:
Bill Gates
Co-founder of the company alongside Paul Allen. He built Microsoft into the world's largest software company. Today he is the world's richest man, worth around $50bn. This week, he announced plans to give up the day-to-day running of the business by 2008 to focus on his family's charitable foundation, which combats diseases including polio, malaria and Aids. He will remain Microsoft's non-executive chairman
Andrea Lewis
She was hired as the company's first technical writer. She left in 1983 and became a freelance journalist and fiction writer. She now lives in Seattle with her husband and two children. She is said to be worth around $2m
Marla Wood
An administrative assistant and book-keeper, she worked at Microsoft until 1980. She and husband Steve Wood became the first of the core group to leave after she filed a sex discrimination suit, which was settled out of court. The Woods are said to be worth $15m.
Paul Allen
He co-founded the company with Gates in 1975 and is today not far behind his former colleague on the annual Forbes rich list, ranked sixth last year with almost $23bn. He left his day job at Microsoft in 1983 to fight Hodgkins Disease but remained on the board until 2000. A canny investor, he built his wealth through investment vehicle Vulcan Ventures. He is chairman of cable TV company Charter Communications, and owns the Portland Trail Blazers basketball team and the Seattle Seahawks American football franchise.
Are Businesses Ultimately Responsible for Our Degrading Health?
When you're fat, is it the fault of the business person selling fatty foods to you or is it your fault for indulging in fatty foods?
When you get a tumour from the chemicals in the corn or vegetable that you constantly consume, is it the fault of the farmer who plants them with chemicals to get extra crops or your fauly for buying the vegetables?
But do you know that you and I are RESPONSIBLE or should I say AT FAULT in both cases.
If you buy stocks in a company, you're telling the company management that you believe in what they do and support them. The company management then tries its best to do enhance its business because if it doesnt, you sell its shares and invest in another company. So by investing in a company that produces crops, you're telling the company to do well. And company management puts pressure on farmers to have more yield. And farmers, for fear of being replaced by other farmers, start using chemicals to enhance their crop yield. And in the end, it is you and me who poisons you and me. We cant blame anyone else.
Will this make everyone invest in companies that only produce organice food.
NO.
People are greedy. Most of the people I speak to believe in living for today. Who cares about the future. Look at what the past left us, so why must we clean the mess? Let the future handle its own problems!
This is the mentality of the current herd of humans in this world. And this is why we will never grow to higher level as a species.
There are a few among us who are trying to change the world. We can make a difference.
Start investing in companies that do not destroy the future. Start by investing in companies that care about you and me. And do not be so gullible in believing advertisements. Companies advertise so that they can suck as much wealth from you to pay their shareholders, which could be yourself or even your neighbour. Dont be a fool so that your neighbour can be rich.
Think and invest in the future, in our future.
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